noun
*the ability to see, hear, or
become aware of something through the senses.
• the state of being or process
of becoming aware of something in such a way.
• a way of regarding,
understanding, or interpreting something; a mental impression.
I work at a nursing home
and teach Chair Yoga to the elderly. See my webpage Chair Yoga for
more info. So, the other day I'm at the nursing home and a student I haven't seen
in a long time says- "Hey Tuesday, you look like you've put on weight. Are
you about ten pounds heavier than before?" -
WHAT? I think to myself.
Omg, I've been working out, watching what I eat and maintaining my happy weight
of 160 pounds. If anything, I should be looking sleeker and more
toned.... How could he say such a thing? I smile and reply "Oh no.. Actually,
I have not gained a pound.” I realize I hadn’t weighed myself in a long time
and I hoped I was in fact correct! “Maybe it's my loose fitting top." I
added.
All day I did double
takes of myself in the mirror to make sure I hadn't inflated. After not using a
weighing scale for months, I even weighed myself. There was no change in the
numbers on the scale. Even still- it got under my skin and I had to
eventually put my foot down and stop my mind from allowing this man’s perception of me- to become my perception of myself.
I could have decided that my student at the nursing home was correct
about my weight, even through I knew it was not true. I could have let it get
to me. If my positive thoughts were not stronger than my negative ones, I could
have gotten depressed about 'his perception of me', and bought a bag of cookies
and ate them all -while sulking about how fat I had gotten. In this way, I
would surely start to feel bloated and begin to match HIS perception of me.
Believe me, I've been down that road. My mind was weak in the past, and would
take personally, and to heart how others saw me. I have news for you- 'You’ve
got to toughen up- and decide you are Beautiful- and stick with it... Even when
you are having a rough day- you gotta pick yourself up and at least let
yourself think beautiful and loving thoughts about yourself. It’s all in the
mind. Only you can do this for you. The mind decides how the body will look,
feel about itself- and be seen. I read a quote recently that said "The
body follows what the mind thinks." So true! If I think of myself as
beautiful, no matter what- and truly believe it and FEEL it, then my body will
hold itself up a little taller and I will walk with more confidence.
We all see each other in different ways. Your definition of fat or unattractive may be my definition of fit and handsome- and vice versa. Your never gonna make everyone happy- nor will everything everyone does or says make you happy. Bottom-line; YOU have to make yourself happy.
Ultimately it’s about where you put your energy. If you believe someone
when they tell you are fat or unattractive, you are giving your power away to
them. When you have built a strong foundation of positive self-loving thoughts,
then other people’s negative- incorrect, or seemingly ‘hurtful’ words and
perceptions of you will have less affect on you. Their distortions will bounce
right off. Now this is not easy, it takes commitment and work to build a strong
resistance to the dark side haha..(you know what I’m talkin about)- and I still
go through it with my boyfriend. When I’m not in my strongest mind of
positivity, or not feeling beautiful, I can take a comment he makes; be it
about another woman, or myself-
and decide to become miserable, feel ugly and unloved. He has no idea I’m
taking his words ‘there’- and I begin
riding a rollercoaster of my own inner dwellings that spiral into hurt
feelings, rooted in childhood self hate and distorted patterns of body image.
Gosh- lets all take a deep inhale and exhale! This can be deep- but perception
rules, along with self love- so the practice of seeing yourself as perfect,
beautiful and just right, right now is the most potent medicine you can give
yourself. It can be hard battling old thoughts of negativity- but YOU CAN DO
THIS! One thought, one day- at a time.
Love Tuesday May
I am not a certified nutritionist, doctor or therapist.
Please consult your healthcare professional before participating in any
lifestyle changes you may feel are questionable to your health.
I am not responsible for any action you resume, You are- Make it pleasurable.
© Tuesday May Thomas 2013
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