So
I’m making out with my new boyfriend. We’ve been dating for two weeks and it’s
the first time we are getting intimate under the sheets. As his hand lifts the
blanket and glides over my hip, I work ‘my angles’ so any unwanted flab does
not droop where it’s not supposed to be. “What’s going to happen when my super-padded
bra comes off and he realizes my ‘C’ cups are really ‘B’s? As we get deeper into
our sexy-time together and the sheets slide to the ground, I pray he does not
turn on any bright lights like my last boyfriend always did. My silent prayer
ignites: “May perfect lighting bless my body here, now, and ever more!
He
pauses to express an interest in my (up until now) hidden tattoos. I am
thankful for their appeal, as they distract him from nearby stretch marks. “Why
can’t I just enjoy this pleasurable experience without living in a fear based
state of possible body-rejection by my new beau?
You may find journaling with
this Blog to be helpful, as you can observe the ebb and flow of your thoughts,
feelings, and life-changes as you love your beautiful body more and more over
time. Journalists, look for (Journal Date + Q & A) to write questions and
answers as we go. Otherwise simply soak in the offerings! <3
Ask Yourself (Journal Date + Q & A)
-Am
I friends with my body?
-Do
I speak and think positively about my body?
-Can
I enjoy a sexual/intimate experience unabashedly, without concern over the
appearance of my physical body?
No
matter what your answers are, if you are willing to redefine the day-to-day
relationship you have with your body into a more positive one, this Blog is for
you. At ‘I Love my Beautiful Body’ Blog, we learn to love our bodies no matter
what weight, shape, size or state of health we find our bodies to be in.
While
this is not a science class, you will be encouraged to do homework and
experiment with your personal body ‘thoughts’,
‘actions’ and ‘affirmations’ over the course of these posts. You will also be
urged to consider your day-to-day thoughts as being intimately connected to how
your body looks and feels to you.
Ask Yourself *(Journal Date + Q & A)
How
do I FEEL about my body right now?
If I was to make three statements about my body, what would they be?
How
do those statements make me feel?
How
you feel
about your body is key to feeling
beautiful from the inside out.
What
you say and think about your body contains the potency to shift how you feel about your body.
What
you say and think about your body has the ability to ‘physically’ change your
body, and grow you a new one. We will
discuss this theory more in upcoming posts.
For
example: I wake up, look in the mirror and decide the cellulite on my legs is
utterly disgusting. I spend the day beating my body up by focusing on the
imperfections I perceive. I feel miserable about myself as the day progresses
and this leads me to highlighting even more things about myself I don’t like. Do
you see the ‘snowball effect’ in action here?
Q: Would
spending the day thinking pessimistic thoughts about your body make it hard for you
to feel beautiful?
A:
You bet it would.
Now
on the other hand; If I wake up, look in the mirror and see some ‘imperfections’,
but know I am working on improving them and accepting them, I would have a
chance to spend time acknowledging the parts of my body I liked, or those I
could come to like. (baby steps work, they
really do.) Such
as the curve of my hip, the softness of my skin, or how my eyes light up when I
smile.
‘Positive Body Talk and
Thought’ can
be a full time job if you constantly bombard and distract yourself with negative
thoughts about your body throughout the day. The
challenge is to rewrite the often *unconscious script we have about our selves,
from the inside out.
*When
we do things in an unconscious
manner, we are doing them out of habit, without really paying attention to what
we are doing.
Homework
Experiment *(Journal Date + Q & A)
Over
the course of the next week, wake up every morning and look in the mirror
completely naked if possible. (1) Notice what you usually don’t like about your
body. Next
comes the ‘work’! (2) Flip the script
about those parts you don’t like, and find something you like. For Example:
(a) Even though you don’t like the cellulite on your legs, you can flip the
script by focusing on the shapely curve of your legs, or your strong calves. Or, (b) Even though the
Doctor’s report is depressing, you can decide your body is capable of healing itself, completely. (3)
And finally, state out loud and into the reflection of yourself in the mirror,
the positive affirmations you find in your Beautiful Body. Find one to three
things about your body to appreciate each day for a week.
Here are the above as
examples: I like the shapely curve of my legs. My body is capable of healing
itself completely.
For accelerated healing and
positive change, recite your three (or more) affirmations silently or aloud
each time you pass a mirror throughout your day-to-day experiment.
End
your mirror affirmations with this statement:
“I
Love My Beautiful Body!”
Next
week we will workout together with videos focusing on a tighter, lifted
buttocks. I look forward to sharing suggestions for everyday fitness and tips
to raise your metabolism in a safe and nutritious way.
I am not a certified nutritionist, doctor or
therapist. Please consult your healthcare professional before participating in
any
lifestyle changes you may feel are questionable to your health.
I am not responsible for any action you resume.
© Tuesday May Thomas 2013
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