Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Waist Trainer Diaries; Entry One

*Note, this video was taken two months into my waist training. 
I had not 'lost an inch' from my waistline until into my third month.

Okay so when I first got my waist trainer, my fiance had to help me hook it up- and that was no easy feat! I had to exhale all of the air out of my lungs, hold my breath- and he would attempt to secure a fastener. It did not always work on the first try and I'd have to exhale everything out again and hold my breath until he struck success!

Once completely 'hooked in', I mused at my figure. Honestly it looked very strange to see myself with such a small waistline. It was like I had entered a weird dream from cirque du soleil and I was a member of the 'freakshow'!  As I walked around in the trainer, I felt like 'Lucy' in a 'I Love Lucy' scenario;  remember the one where she was covered in a head-to-toe body cast? It was so alien to wear this contraption, my walk seemed odd and stiff. I could not bend forward at all (let alone touch my toes) I would stumble backwards and forwards like a little kid learning to walk.

This first time, I attempted to sit in bed to read with it on, my body was like, "Oh hell - no!" It was unruly and uncomfortable. I thought, "Am I really gonna go through with this?" I propped myself up with a bunch of pillows, but could not get comfy... No problem, I have a 'standing desk', I thought to myself. I will just do some work in the office standing up. Then about 30 minutes into my first 'wearing', my kidneys screamed at me just how they did when I wore the belt a year earlier; read my blogpost The Corset for more on that.

It was then I knew this was nothing to play around with. I honor my body and my health. To impose such sudden restriction on my organs is a big deal, and I do not want to walk a path of vanity with this experience. There was no way I was going to ignore my body signals. I then took off the waist trainer, and boy did it feel good to breathe again! I realized my breathing was so restricted while wearing it. It felt good to take a deep breath, and then another.

I decided to get into a rhythm, knowing my body felt harmonious to wear it up to 30 minutes at a time. Every other day I would ask my fiance to help me get hooked in again and each day my body told me when my time was up at half hour increments. Then after two weeks, I was able to find a little more comfort and wore it for 45 minutes, then an hour and then two hours became my norm by the end of my first month. I felt breathing was easier, though I still could not move very well in it.

Into my second month, I was better able to breathe and was able to fasten it all by myself. My body adapted and felt harmonious with it on for between 2-3 hours at a time. Though I still could not sit down with it on. Three hours became my new goal each time I wore it. I decided to wear it every day for two weeks, up to 3 hours each time. I was pretty successful and breathing became easier...Sighhhh!

Come by for my next Waist Trainer Diaries; Entry Two where I will talk about having your cake and eating it!!! Yes, we will discuss eating and cooking with the trainer on, and the journey of beginning to exercise while wearing it too. See you then...
Love,
Tuesday
www.tuesdaymaythomas.com


Friday, August 7, 2015

Waist Training- Why?

Why am I waist training?... I never once thought about having a smaller waistline, in fact I never thought about it, because I didn't really think it was possible. As I have learned to love and accept myself, a new conversation has birthed between me and my bones, muscles, organs and skin.

I always thought I would be stuck in a body I hated and that it would never really change. I have learned my body is a living, breathing, malleable organism that is ever shedding and growing anew. I understand now, more than ever- that my body's health, energy and physique are direct reflections of my thoughts, feelings and affirmations... not only about IT, but about everything I think and feel about life and the universe as a whole.

I strive to experience peace, joy and simplicity. I am done with the inner fight and ‘self sabotaging’ self-hate. As my life heals, my body heals. Old molds of who I thought I was drop away and my body hungers to explore new and exciting dimensions of self. As the divine feminine is allowed to dance and play through my body, I want to dance, decorate and celebrate my form. I call it lovin' on my body.

Let it be known the love always begins on the inside and change is not sought because what abides is unloved and must change. Change is born through complete acceptance and love in the now. That love draws me to explore- like a scientist, like an artist- the abilities of my body, and this is one way I am loving to experiment! Stay tuned.... 

Friday, July 24, 2015

Beautiful Body Meditation - 'Future Body Vision'

When growing a new body, loosing weight, or healing our physical forms- it is important to strengthen the ability to see one's self as we wish.. What do you see in your 'future body vision'? 

Great minds agree; if you can see 'it' in your minds-eye (greater health, a fit body or the booty you have dreamt of), you can create it.

This guided meditation/visualization is for anyone who seeks to grow their body from the inside out.

Strengthen your muscle of seeing your body just as you wish it to be, while loving it just as it is.


Come by and try it out at my Listening Station & Find it in my Store. <3 Love, Tuesday 

Saturday, July 18, 2015

Waist Training- The Corset

In Spring of 2014, I learned a new dance. Upon finding my Staff of Power through the Divine Feminine I learned my very own Snake Dance. My body showed me how. And your's can show you too.

I danced to shed skins and bid farewell to those battered parts of Self that were ready to die and be reborn. 
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The body, once 'set free' said to me; "Purchase a corset." So I did. It had been a year since I started my 'Beautiful Body Blog'... I had just turned forty-two, and my first book was about to be published.

With the birth of my first-born (book) coming, I felt anxious and ungrounded. So many parts of myself had come unraveled over the four years it took to write Confessions of a Spiritual Apprentice. I had spent so long writing and reviewing my life's story, that I wasn't sure who I was anymore. 'That was me then...who am I now?'

Thus .. the call of the corset! I shopped around, read reviews and decided to 'try' it out with a less expensive version for $50 I found on the internet. In the meantime, I accosted an old belt from my closet. It was thick and wide. I would belt that sucker on until my figure looked like an hourglass. Only thing is, I could not take wearing it for more than two hours at a time. It would feel fine., okay maybe strange., okay very difficult... and then out of nowhere, my kidneys would begin screaming at me, sending sharp pangs through my side body. I knew it was my body's way of saying 'take it off!'. So I did. 

Finally the corset came! After much anticipation, I was disappointed. I know,... you get what you pay for. I knew it was not the 'real thing' when ordering it too...but I did have high hopes it would be something I could at least work with! Upon putting it on, the clasps did not stay in place and the boning was way too soft to have any affect on my shape. After several attempts to work it, I had to realize 'it' was not working at all. 
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A year later, I am experimenting with Waist Training. Keep an eye out for more Beautiful Body posts on my journey. xo Tuesday    
www.tuesdaymaythomas.com

Thursday, July 16, 2015

OVERNIGHT OATS

Hello Beautiful Bodies,
Here is the first of my bite sized blogs ala' 2015 for you <3

Finding the right pre-workout food to fuel your energy is vital. No matter the workout, 'whole oats' Oatmeal wins as my pre-workout primer, hands down. Click here to find out how to get your morning started the night before!  
xo

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Commitment, Comfort Zones & Calming Stress


Happy New Year!
"I am humbly grateful... For my experiences are always beautiful and fulfilling. 
I am humbly grateful... For miracles include me in their play."
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I am deciding my 'New Year' begins NOW, as I write this to you.. As we enter Mercury Retrograde.
The last four weeks have been exciting, exhausting, expansive and somewhat of an endurance test. Stress has been high for me, which is unusual. And you know- being a yoga teacher, I am supposed to be ever-calm and in manage of my emotions... NOT! 

"I now live the life I love to live!"

Why did I make that statement? Because I feel my stress has a lot to do with ME being resistant to fully receiving the very things I have been asking for. In 2014 I asked for a lot. And now that everything I asked for is here, I'm dealing with my own fear of really stepping into 'it' and being more of myself in it.

What did you ask for in 2014?... Either consciously or subconsciously?
Has it arrived? Is it on its way? 
Are you enjoying the process of 'becoming more of yourself'?

COMMITMENT

In 2014 I committed to living a life much larger than I had ever known. To me, this meant setting specific goals as a writer and following through with them to get results- just as we do when preparing a workout regime. This also meant teaching more of my homemade style classes on Meditation and BellyDance, in honor of creating community and stretching my skills as a teacher. Committing to a much larger life also meant leaving a long-term and very comfortable job that had outlived its growth for me.

In the last month...

1. I moved into an amazing new home with my fiancé... on New Years Eve!
 something we had been talking about for four months, happened in less than two weeks.
2. I now have 'office space', whereby I can get into the 'writing zone' for my next book.
the space has arrived, when will I? 
3. I left a job after ten years of very wonderful service. Thank you, and you're welcome.
 an outgrown comfort zone. It's time to expand my vision of the program I was running, and expand my vision of self too.
4.My body suffered an on-off winter cold, from mid December to mid January.
yuck. 
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When you make big life changes, how does your body reflect them?

I feel my 'on-off winter cold' reflects all the ways I am changing- from the inside out. The expansion of home-space chosen by my partner and I is a huge step in trusting the direction we envision for our life together. In our new home, we each have an abundance of space to 'create' and experiment in our own magical ways. Him with his new food business, and me with my teaching, dancing and writing. I have been given, and have gifted myself a new playground to play in... so why is it so damn hard to play? Is it because it is a very new type of living situation for me? One that I have never experienced before? Indeed it is. I feel like my new living situation is a dream coming to life. It is a reality that takes me outside of a comfort zone I didn't even know existed.

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COMFORT ZONES

My on-off winter cold had taken its toll. I felt run-down. My shoulder and lower back became strained and I was near to tears. I was officially exhausted. I barely had a moment to catch my breath, with being away for Christmas and then the big move. I wanted to cry, but couldn't let myself surrender, as I had to leave soon to teach a yoga class (irony).  I became emotional and felt something bubble up that I had been trying to push down. It was STRESS! James, my fiancé put his arm around me and said: "We have been in 'preparation-mode' for some time. Now we get to live what we have been preparing for!" I knew he was right. 'Be grateful. Celebrate the abundance Tuesday,- and expand into it with ease and joy. Get to work now, and own it...Otherwise, go kicking and screaming- until you break." I told myself.

As I walked to work with a sore shoulder and twisted lower back, I knew the stress I felt was the resistance I had to relaxing into my new life. This stress is based in fear! I thought. I am afraid of trusting this growth spurt, and so the 'little me' is trying to hold onto the past, even though I have outgrown it. The old me from our last home is trying to hold onto the easy comfort zone of only having to live up to a much smaller vision of myself. That old job was super easy, and paid a certain sum that I am sacrificing for my growth. Now that I have let go of the old life- I am scared.. I have to step up and step into this new life I have created. I admit, I am afraid of letting go completely and trusting my heart. But if I don't, I will be dying a slow death, and won't really be living at all.

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If you can do everything you 'do' with your eyes closed (Jedi joke not intended), then maybe you need to sign up for some activities that get you excited, and make you stretch beyond your comfort zone.

Where can you make sacrifices for your own growth? 
What have you been doing that you know does not offer you challenges to grow?
How can you stretch beyond your known limits?


CALMING STRESS

You know when you are given (or give yourself) the opportunity to stretch beyond your comfort zone? Growing pains can happen, and growing pains are not comfortable- but they give us the chance to practice self-love and self-care.

After teaching my yoga class, it was evident to a close friend that I needed a stress release. "Take an epsom salt bath girl... Put some lavender in it and just chill..." She spoke to me while holding my arm. "You need it." She was right. I am always telling other people to take epsom baths, and now its my turn. I usually take them to soothe aching muscles, but I forget that it is an excellent way to aid relaxation and pull toxins out of our bodies, including toxic thoughts, so I believe.

Bathtime

I needed a ceremony. So I didn't just take a bath, I took a ceremonial-bath. I needed a real happening to signify a release of the past. Something I had not done yet.  I got a 4 pound bag of Epsom Salt from Walgreens and collected some flowers from around the house. I poured half the bag of salt in and carefully placed the flowers, along with stems of green-  into the piping hot bath water. With some gentle-piano and flowing-water music in the background, I lit a candle just for me. 

"This bath is a healing and a cleansing. May I be forever changed in the highest ways, upon leaving this sanctuary." I stated upon entering the steamy waters.

I got in and didn't get out for two hours. One hour in, I began to unravel and breathe deeply- releasing sighs of relief along the way. I drained the bath a little and refilled it with more hot water and added the rest of the Epsom salt. I placed the flowers along my stomach and the branches of green along my legs. I submerged my rose and clear quartz crystals into the water with me and started to sob. I allowed myself to feel it, and so sobbed some more.  As I did, I felt myself unravel. I started to relax for the first time in a month.  

Afterwards I left the flowers to dry along my bath and kept the greens at the foot. Everyday when I showered, I was brought back to the reminder of beauty and relaxation and how vital it is to enjoying the very transformation we call to our lives.

Beauty in our surroundings reminds us to relax.
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What can you do this week- to help relieve stress in your life, and to treat yourself with extra loving care? Do it! Let it be a healing... Let it renew you. Surrender to the process and slow down to live it.
©TuesdayMayThomas

P.s. My book Confessions of a Spiritual Apprentice is on sale  at amazon.com til' the end of January- you have ten more days to purchase on Kindle for $2.99!

Love
Tuesday




Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Ten tips for a Comfortable and Confident 'You' this Thanksgiving!

©TuesdayMayThomas
It’s that time of the year again... When glasses are overflowing and Christmas nibbles can add up.  I hated the Holiday Season for most of my adult life. Okay, I hated the Holidays for twenty years to be exact. Yes I enjoyed exchanging gifts and spending time with family and friends, and of course, having time off of school or work... But Holiday parties were my worst nightmare. I was already overweight, uncomfortable in my clothes, and used to unbuttoning my jeans after meals all the time (not that this is any excuse, but back in the day- stretchy denim did not exist!).

I yearned to 'look good' and 'feel good' when reconnecting with friends and fam’ at Holiday gatherings. Throughout my twenties, I dreamt of wearing a skin-tight mini dress for New Years Eve, but lacked the courage to do so, due to my low self-esteem and awful body image. This coupled with over indulging/eating/drinking/smoking through the months of November and December- made for a fifteen-twenty pounds heavier version of me by the New Year. Sigh. Okay, the above is a visit into my past. Now I’m older and wiser. Now I know no matter how much I weigh, if I want to wear the dress, I will wear the dress, and I will rock it! It’s all about confidence and loving yourself where you at, right NOW.

Even though I over indulged for most of my life, the past three years have been completely different for me, partly due to the fact that for three years in a row 2010-2013, I did a series of intensive fasting through the month of October each year. The first year I fasted for two weeks, then twenty-one days, and the final year I almost made it to thirty days, but ended on the twenty-eighth evening. During these fasts, I ate clean foods, just a lot less than normal. This left my stomach so small, that there was no way I could eat how I used to afterwards.

There is irony though. I lost a lot of weight- real quick through fasting, and I do not recommend long term intensive fasting unless you have a divine guidance to do so, plus proper guidelines for correct health and nutrition while on your fast.

I did have divine guidance to fast, so I do not regret it. It was a very spiritual pursuit I followed with my fasts, which you can read about at one of my other blogs Confessions of a Spiritual Apprentice

Okay, all of this said- I weighed between 175/185 lbs when I started these trinity of fasts. I lost so much weight during each fast, I went down to 150lbs, three years in a row, then gained it all back- three years in a row... It is only in this past sixteen months that I have found a balanced lifestyle that I can sustain, and that sustains me and my bodyweight. My intensive fasting left me with loose skin that I thought I might only be dealing with after the age of sixty, not forty. This has been my physics project; to re-enliven the elastin and collagen in my skin, and love my body just the way it is. Ahhh- there is hope. Read my blog entitled A Vegetarian on Gelatin. Taking gelatin in my protein drinks after working out has certainly helped to rejuvenate my skin tone. If you are seeking more tools to enhance your beautiful body, check out my video entitled Love the Skin you're In. 

Ten Tips for a Comfortable and Confident You

Check out my Top Ten Tips below for feeling good in your body this Thanksgiving- and beyond. 
Really, these are great guidelines for any body, any time of the year! Lets go-

First and foremost....
Pause and give thanks- to your beautiful body for its vital health, and for the blessing of abundance you will share in the form of food and company this Holiday Season <3

(1) Work out/ do yoga/ go hiking/ get your heart rate up/ break a sweat- and do not eat too much at all the day of Thanksgiving. If anything, have your after workout protein and avoid eating too much bread and thick filling appetizers before the feast! Knowing you will be lounging for about six hours over the day, do yourself a favor and get out for some exercise before hand. Your will be soooooo friggin happy you did so, and it will help your body digest all of the lovely yummies you will enjoy later.

(2) Don’t ‘dis’ your workout routine. You are not too busy to workout. Yes this is a Jedi mind trick. And, you are welcome. This IS your routine. Move your schedule around so you can get ‘you’ in. Ask friends and family to help organize plans for the day so you can get your sweat on. If classes are stopped at your local gym due to a Holiday schedule, or you have to skip because Aunt Mimi is coming to town- you better get out your favorite ‘at home’ workout dvd, or go for a long challenging uphill hike/run, or get out that jump-rope and do some drills and crunches.

(3) I’m gonna tell you straight. Get your gut in order! Go now and purchase ‘acidophilus’ or some kind of probiotic (from any local drug store- I recommend Natures Bounty Probiotic or Trader Joes Acidophilus) and start taking them NOW (take twice or three times as much as the bottle says- every day through the new year.. and get into the habit of taking probiotics regularly. This will aid in a clearer skin complexion, a boosted immune system, and wooopie... A regular bowel movement- Hallelujah! After years of being constipated, and thinking it was ‘normal’ not to have a BM for a couple days at a time... Now I live to poop! Hehe :) There is nothing worse than attending the Thanksgiving meal and feeling like you are already bloated due to constipation or because of eating too much the day before. Get regular with your BM’s and make room for a flowing digestive tract.

(4) Chew your food for better digestion. It doesn’t matter if everyone around you is digging in and inhaling their food. What matters is that you are enjoying the flavors of your meal and chewing so much that the food you eat begins to break down in your mouth before even getting to your stomach and intestines. This will help you digest better and faster overall, and it will help to avoid bloating and gas- from above and below! 

(5) Don’t eat until you feel full. If you have to unbutton your pants half way through your meal, or at the end of it- you’ve gone too far. Don’t eat until you feel full. Period. Eat until you feel satisfied.

(6) Eat a half-sized meal at the dinner table. You can always go back for more. It is better to have a little of everything, rather than a lot of everything. This way you can try dishes out to see if you like what someone may have brought for the dinner before you commit to a serving of ‘mustard seed sweet potatoes', for instance. Even if it’s all the same old hits this Thanksgiving- do yourself a favor and start with smaller portions. Savor and enjoy each bite, knowing you can always go back for more a little later.

(7) Let yourself digest ‘part one’. Most of us will indeed have seconds this Thanksgiving... Let yourself take your time. Do not feel rushed by your sever. Often folks who ‘host’ are in high gear, readily wanting to dish out all the delights on offer, and rush you to eat more before you are ready to.  YOU set the pace. If they really feel the need to clear the table before you’ve treated yourself to part two, so be it. Just get a clean plate and start fresh later, rather than stuffing in more food before you’ve had a chance to digest a bit. You will be happy you did so.

(8) If you don’t like it, don’t eat it. Why do we feel like we have to eat something just because someone we know made it? If you don’t dig the heavily larded toenail-apple pie your Uncle brought, or the fish-juice potatoes your Aunt Maude made, gracefully leave it on your plate so you can enjoy something else in its place later.

(9) Enjoy your pie! Okay, after the toenail metaphor, this might be hard to stomach- haha-. I say, if you are gonna go for it, go for it! Have either a full slice of pie, or two/three slim mini-sized pieces if you want to try all of them!

(10) Get your fam’ and friends to join you for a after dinner walk, either before or after pie time. Even if its only for a couple of blocks, see it as an opportunity to stretch your legs and get some fresh air.. Perhaps catch up with that long lost family member you’ve always been curious about! An after dinner walk helps foster a better digestion.

Okay Beautiful Bodies, I am sending you love and light this Thanksgiving.. And for all of our over seas friends, may you enjoy a blessed and cozy end of November. Remember, you can use any of these guidelines, any time of the year.

With love,
Tuesday
©TuesdayMayThomas