Thank you for
visiting ‘I Love My Beautiful Body’. I am inspired to share this Blog with all
of you out there that have difficulty loving your body just the way it is,
NOW. Each week we will walk
through a new dimension of your body and explore loving it, healing it and
making changes in our day-to-day life so you may learn how to grow a new physical form. That’s right-
you will grow yourself into a new body, I swear! You will be given weekly
Homework. You will experiment with new eating and exercise routines. You will
consider how your thoughts about your body influence how you feel about your body and affect how it appears to you. The most important
part of growing a new body, lies in
cultivating the ability to let go of pain from the past, and habits
that keep you stuck in the rut of projecting negative thoughts about
your body image.
Your body is a living
entity. Your body goes with you everywhere you go. It can be your best friend
if you let it. It hears every thought and word you speak about it. When you
talk to your friends, or think about how much you hate your thighs or belly
fat, your body shrinks in its ability to be powerful, and change itself into a
new form. It feels bullied by your small talk about it and just like a child, thinks what you say
is the truth. On the other hand, when you speak and think in
positive ways about your body- it stands up a little straighter and has more
energy to do things for it's self to
make improvements.
Now lets get one
thing straight, this Blog is not about obtaining the ‘perfect body’-it’s about
helping us all, myself included, make the day-to-day changes required to truly
shift out of the limited vision we have of ourselves so we can love our selves,
and bodies more. Perhaps you love the weight you are at and do not wish to change a thing- That is great! There may still be some insight I can offer through this Blog that may help you heal other aspects of yourself.
I will say this; If loosing weight is your only goal, this blog may not be for you. While I enjoy sharing workout routines and love exercising more than I ever did before, I know the secret to being beautiful is not how much make up you have on, how perfect your breasts are, how buff you are, or how much hair you have on our head (this Blog is for Men too!)- It's how you feel about yourself on the inside. Once you begin to dismantle old negative 'body talk' and begin a new conversation with your body, you may find your weight changing, or inches dropping, or your overall appearance will begin to look different to you. But its ultimatley because you are learning to love yourself and your body more now than ever, not because you are battling the scales.
Maybe you have spent a lifetime, or many years seeing your
body as unhealthy, ugly, fat or yes, even too thin. Maybe you are afraid to be beautiful. I was trained from the age
of five by my grandmother to be fearful. She told me over and over again; “Any time a man
looks at you, he wants sex with you.” She used to say this in a manner that made it
sound threatening to gain a man's attention. This totally confused me, as I had no idea what ‘sex’
was at that early age. I learned to basically ‘fear being a woman’ and think of sex as dirty. As I grew
up, I realized her words were
burned into my mind. I believed them to be true. I allowed her words to make me very
afraid to feel beautiful, or do
anything to draw attention to myself in a way that would seem attractive to the
opposite sex. When I did gain attention from men, I would freeze or fumble and become very anxious and uptight. Listen, I love my Nana, I now know she was only trying to keep me ‘safe’
in her own way. But I am also aware she was giving, or gifting to me, her personal
beliefs about men. I don’t hold it against her.
Thankfully I have cracked the
code and realize those were her fearful thoughts I took on over my life,
and they really had nothing to do with me, unless I believed they did. That’s
what you will be doing. You will crack your inner-codes and learn to dismantle
harmful, hurtful, fear-based, and limiting thought-patterns that were given, or gifted to you by family, friends, foes
and society at large... Yes, when we learn to transform them, these burdens can
become gifts of the highest order!
Okay, if you are
still reading, then something here is resonating and maybe there could be some
nuggets of gold in this rainbow of a Blog for you!
Being beautiful is not about having a tiny waistline, zero flab, no cellulite, or never getting wrinkles, it’s about feeling
beautiful as a day-to-day experience. When we feel beauty, that is; Experience a true appreciation and awe at the
wonder of our bodies we so often take for granted, our bodies start to respond
in amazing ways. So, we will learn to allow ourselves to feel beautiful. As we relax into feeling beautiful, our ability to see ourselves in beautiful ways
will begin to take shape. You will naturally want to take better care of your
skin and eating habits. Proper rest along with regular exercise will
become a part of your regimen. But most of all, you will learn how to heal your
body with the power of your thoughts about yourself. This is the most valuable
part of the equation because its gift
that keeps giving. It is the gift of greater self-love. Ahhhhh <3
When you start to
let go of unconstructive habits, re-write the way you think about yourself, and
begin to heal the stuff deep inside, the pounds will start to melt off, or your
ability to gain weight (if the reverse is your woe) will start to happen in
a balanced way. You will become lighter on the inside without all those heavy
thoughts beating you up, and your natural weight will find you.
Picture- me at the age of seventeen.
I am smiling on the outside but filled with negative self-talk on the inside. I weigh close to 190 lbs here.
Believe me, You
can loose all the weight you want, but it doesn’t mean you will feel better, be happier, or even look
different to yourself if you still see yourself as ‘fat’ and continue to have fat thoughts about yourself. Back in
2000, I weighed close to 200 pounds. After three months of backpacking around
Australia I weighed 140 pounds. It didn’t matter because every time I looked in
the mirror I still saw the overweight girl I was before I left staring back at
me in the mirror. (You can read all about my personal adventures with weight
gain, weight loss, and more in my upcoming book entitled Confessions
of a Spiritual Apprentice ©
I had ‘programmed’ so many hateful
thoughts about myself into my body- that I literally could not see past them.
They blinded me, and after some time I gained back enough weight to fit the
image I had in my mind.
Confessions of A Spiritual Apprentice book
http://www.tuesdaymaythomas.com/#!books/c1xu8.
Picture Below- Me just a couple months ago. I am filled with more beautiful thoughts than I ever knew I could have!
I am 160 lbs here, my steady weight.
Yes, from an early
age I was clinically obese and then I grew a few inches and everything evened
out. And then I gained weight again, and then I lost it, and then I gained it
back again, and then I lost it again... and the cycle went on and on. It all
changed when the ‘ex’ I was planning to marry (and was with for five years),
slept with another person a week before our marriage date was set. Ughhh....
I was thirty-eight
years old and weighed 185 pounds. I hated who looked back at me in the mirror.
All I could see was a tired, aging, overweight woman who had been betrayed, a
woman who could never trust in love again. I felt so alone... But instead of cursing
my body for all of its faults as I usually would, I began to feel compassion
for all the hurt and pain I had gone through, not just with my ex, but over my
whole life.
I saw the
connection between who I thought I was,
and how my body appeared to me, exactly as the
person I thought I was. I hated myself and my body, but deep inside I
knew the self-hate was bringing me down. I looked in the mirror at my sagging
and emotionally exhausted body and told myself; “You’re gonna change for the
better lady.” I felt so hurt and could have easily become bitter after the experience with my ex. But I didn't want to grow into a suspicious, mistrusting, scowling, lonely old woman. And believe me, even when young in years, constant thoughts
of self-hate and loathing will wear you down from the inside out and cause you
to look a lot older than you are.
I am now forty-one
years of age and feel younger than
when I was in my thirties. It is in part due to an exercise, beauty and
nutrition routine, but mostly it is due to the cause of learning to love
myself, one day at a time. That’s what I want to share with you- the gift of
learning to love yourself more than you ever have before. May you and find beauty in
who you get to know within yourself.
So, I’m not gonna
leave you without something to work with, and I appreciate you reading thus far
so we can get to know each other. I can’t promise each weekly post will be of a
certain length, but I will promise to share new tools with you each week. Your
tools will include tips on nutrition, digestion, products I love, recipes, suggestions
on how to structure, plan and schedule your workouts, and videos on tightening,
lifting and toning your beautiful body with my favorite ‘shape-shifter’
routines that you can do at home. We will also have fun with hair, skin and
beauty routines while running through weekly guidelines for day-to-day ways you
can raise your metabolism and ‘work’ your body while at the bus stop, at work and
at home.
Remember, most importantly- your homework will include ‘inner work’
too, so you can explore feeling beautiful from the inside out. After all, isn’t
that what truly counts? We become more beautiful with each beautiful thought we have. We are
cultivating ‘beauty consciousness’ from within each living cell in our
beautiful, healthy bodies! This kind of beauty radiates out in all directions
and returns multiplied! Mmmmm hmmmm..
So thats what our first program together will be in the next posting; working with our thoughts about our bodies. Once we get accustomed to this kind of 'body-talk work', the next blog will incorporate fun exercise routines for my fav areas to tone; the butt, triceps, legs and core. I will include guidelines to structure your own workouts too!
Thank You for
visiting. Please come back later to begin this program, or go ahead and keep
reading!- Why not??
I am not a certified nutritionist, doctor or
therapist. Please consult your healthcare professional before
participating in
any diet, exercise or lifestyle changes you may feel are questionable to your
health.
I resume no responsibility for your actions.
© Tuesday May
Thomas 2013
